A Year of Patience

serious one this time around. not me being silly and goofy like I have been most recently. I am not going to post this on Facebook where a lot of my friends may see it. so, this is exclusively for you. Only you, who are subscribed to my blog, or you who stumbled upon it whichever way you did.

As you might know I am a believer in the Baha’i Faith. The Faith places great importance on family life. Calling Marriage, a “fortress for wellbeing”. The sacredness of the institution of marriage is deeply rooted in the teachings of the faith as it promotes unity, love and harmony. The Faith promises the emergence of a peaceful united world which requires a united family at its core.  due to that station of the institution of marriage, there are laws and teachings in place to protect it. Teachings that require the couple to investigate each other’s character prior to getting engaged. it requires all living natural parents to give consent to this union. It also has the couple promise each other to abide by the will of God as their vows to start that relationship.

Marriage is not easy. all of you married people out there know that better than anyone else. as challenges rise between married couples the faith offers teachings to help guide them through these challenges. this is where the term “year of patience” comes from. If a couple are struggling to continue their relationship they may request to start a year of patience from their local institution (an administrative committee that handles the affairs of the Baha’is in a locality). The first duty of that institution is to try to help the couple to reconcile. If the efforts reach a halt and the couple is irreconcilable, then a year of patience may commence. The year of patience requires that the couple live apart. And that they actively try to reconcile the marriage during this year. If the year lapses and they can’t reconcile then they may start the process for divorce.

So here we go. My wife and I have been in a Year of Patience for almost 3 months now. She moved out of the house. She lives nearby so she can have easy access to our 3 kids who currently stay with me. She sees them every day after work/school and puts them to sleep a couple to a few nights a week. And she spends every other weekend with them.

This has been one of the hardest decisions I had to make. Saying goodbye to the dream I always had around family and children hurt so much. I will keep this to one page for now, maybe future posts will follow. For now, I just wanted to put it out there.

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